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The Secret Society: An Online Support Group for Herpes Community
Finding out you have herpes can be a difficult and isolating experience. When Alexandra, the founder of The Secret Society was first diagnosed, she felt alone and without support. That's why she created The Secret Society, an online support group for people living with herpes.
The Secret Society is a place where people from all over the world come together to find support, make friends, and talk about their herpes journey. It's a safe space where people can be open and honest without fe…
Accepting My Flaws and a Herpes Diagnosis - There Is More than Just Herpes
Being Promiscuous Will Get You a Herpes Diagnosis
Being Diagnosed with Herpes Later in Life (40s, 50s, 60s,...)
It's easier to be diagnosed with herpes in your 20's. It's easier to get diagnosed with herpes in your 50's. These are all things I hear on a weekly basis. We always think the grass is greener on the other side.
The Day I Got Diagnosed with Genital Herpes Was the Worst Day of My Life: Oh Sh*T Anniversary pt.5
What Life with Herpes Looks like for 11 Years - Oh Sh*T Anniversary Pt.5
Something Was Wrong but I Didn't Think It Was Herpes - Oh Sh*T Anniversary Pt.1
Eleven years ago I was diagnosed with genital herpes.
Afraid to Get Herpes: Here’s What to Do
Before getting herpes or a STD/STI I was terrified of getting one, especially herpes. I mean look at what the stigma says about people who have herpes. They are disgusting, they have slept around, they are whores that got this because they did something wrong and now they are paying for it and it can go on and on. Obviously I don’t beige this stigma and neither should you.
In case you didn’t know I was actually a sexual educator back in high school. I went through training organized by Plann…
Herpes Dating Stories: What You Really Need to Know when Disclosing
Now that we have herpes one of the biggest fears is disclosing to a partner. I know this was my big fear and why I stayed the the guy I got herpes from for 2 years. I was so paralysed with fear of the rejection that I didn’t think anyone would ever want to date me because I was used goods. In fact this is the number one question I get from you all, whether it be in our weekly support groups or in DM’s or in the comments. The fear of disclosing just stops us.
Let me just get to the point ther…
HSV2 Is Contagious 10% of the Time
Now that we have herpes we want to know what the chances are that we’re going to transmit herpes to our partner. I get asked this daily on my lives and in the comments. There is the preconceived thought that if you have herpes you’re contagious all the time and you’ll have outbreaks all the time and that your entire body is contagious. I can happily tell you that that is not true.
Here’s how it works.
Firstly, your entire body is not contagious. I’ve been asked by people who are newly diag…