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When you get the phone call from your doctor saying, “you have herpes” it’s typically the worst news you’ve received in your life. I know it was for me. And I know what it feels like to hang up the phone and feel the rollercoaster of emotions that come with the HSV virus.

Personally, I felt like my life was over and everything that I ever wanted just vanished into thin air. I believed that I no longer deserved to be an equal when it came to finding love. I thought that my health and well being didn’t matter anymore because I had genital herpes. And I was living under a dark cloud.

This is why I created Life With Herpes.

These feelings of disgust, a life of solitude and self hate are all normal and it’s possible to get off that rollercoaster of emotions and begin to stop the suffering, physically, mentally and emotionally.

Here’s the deal. You’ve come to the right place and you’re going to be just fine. I am so excited you are here (obviously not excited you have herpes, lol) and I am thrilled to welcome you to the Life With Herpes Community. There are so many resources for you to begin to feel comfort, freedom and get you back to enjoying life to its fullest. Seriously, I wish this community was here when I was diagnosed in 2011 and that’s why I created Life With Herpes.

Step 1: Get Diagnosed

If you’re not sure yet if the bump, blister or tingle is herpes then it’s crucial that you get diagnosed. Wondering, worrying and hoping it’s not herpes doesn’t help you in the long run. Using HerpAlert is my favorite way to know for sure if it’s herpes because it’s fast, discrete and you’ll get a diagnosis on the same day and be able to pick your prescription up within hour. 

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Step 2: Download the Herpes Outbreak Toolkit

This toolkit will point you in the right direction, back towards confidence, peace, comfort, and pain-free herpes outbreak living. It doesn’t matter if it's your first outbreak or if you’ve had herpes for years this toolkit is essential and will walk you through step-by-step. If it’s your first outbreak then these first days are so emotional and the best thing you can do is educate yourself on your herpes diagnosis. This Herpes Outbreak Toolkit is 7 days of hand holding that includes, daily videos, easy steps to managing your outbreak, ways to manage relief from pain and not to mention the embarrassment.

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Step 3: Download the Tell Your Partner Toolkit

This toolkit will give you the knowledge, confidence and exactly what to say to your partner. It doesn't matter if it's something casual, if you want more or if you're already in a relationship. You'll get immediate access to 14 videos, scripts you can download and all the information you'll need so you can disclose to your partner. 

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Step 4: Join Our Secret Society (Herpes Support Group)

Being alone with a herpes diagnosis is the worst place to be. You feel lost, you feel dirty, you feel like you’ve done something wrong and worst of all you feel like your life is over. I was alone for a number of years and it took me 2 years of working through my diagnosis to get out from under that dark “herpes” cloud. I truly wish I had a community of people who just “got me”.

When there is a community the struggle to survive with herpes is no longer impossible. In the Secret Society there’s 24/7 support from people all over the world who are going through the same thing as you. We all have herpes and we all understand where you are on your journey with herpes.

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Step 5: Schedule an Emergency Coaching Call

There are times with a herpes diagnosis that freak out mode or meltdown mode happens and that is why you can schedule a call with me ASAP.

Sitting in your own worry or trying to google the answers to your herpes questions is not the best idea. Talking to someone who’s been through it, lives it and totally gets what you’re going through will take you from crisis mode to feeling in control and living life with herpes.

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Step 6: Order Your Secret Society Wellness Products

Our favorite way to calm anxiety, reduce the pain from herpes outbreaks and improve our overall wellbeing is using the Secret Society Wellness hat are designed specifically to fight herpes outbreaks. 

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