May 13, 2026 04:47pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Herpes 101

5 min read

I Didn't Sign Up for This!

None of Us Did. And That's Exactly the Point.

Let me guess. The moment you saw that diagnosis, a voice inside your head screamed: "I didn't sign up for this!"

Maybe you were careful. Maybe you asked for test results. Maybe you were in a committed relationship. Maybe it was your first partner. Or maybe it happened years ago and you're still whispering those words to yourself in quiet moments.

Here's the truth none of us want to admit at first: None of us signed up for this.

And yet, here we a…

May 13, 2026 04:47pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Herpes 101

5 min read

May 6, 2026 04:50pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Dating

8 min read

There Is Risk and Reward in Every Relationship

Why your disclosure moment is just one chapter in a much bigger story—and how to keep the focus on the relationship that matters.

Let's talk about the weight we put on one single moment.

You've been there. Maybe it's been a few days, maybe a few months, or maybe you're still staring at your phone trying to craft the perfect text. That moment when you finally say the words, when you tell someone you have herpes. It looms so large in your mind that it starts to feel like the entire relationship …

May 6, 2026 04:50pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Dating

8 min read

Apr 29, 2026 04:35pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under The Shame Game

3 min read

How I Found Freedom After Herpes

When you think about freedom what comes to mind?

For me things like breathing fully, feeling unencumbered, spacious places, being known,
and vulnerability comes to mind.

I thought freedom was found when I started talking to people about what I was going
through.
Freedom did come, in part.

I thought freedom was found when I made it into a therapist office to really address what
I was walking through.
Freedom did come, in part.

I thought freedom was found when I put pen to paper (or should I say fingers to…

Apr 29, 2026 04:35pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under The Shame Game

3 min read

Apr 22, 2026 04:43pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Herpes 101

7 min read

You Don't Need to Have an Outbreak to Transmit Herpes

Why this fact means we need to talk about it once, twice, and then again—and how the Tell Your Partner Toolkit helps you do it.

Let’s get the hard truth out of the way right at the top: You can transmit herpes even when you have zero symptoms. Not a single tingle, not a single bump, nothing. It’s called asymptomatic shedding, and it’s just a biological fact of life with this virus .

Now, take a breath. This isn't meant to scare you. It's meant to start a conversation. Actually, it's meant to s…

Apr 22, 2026 04:43pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Herpes 101

7 min read

Apr 15, 2026 04:33pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Telling Your Partner

7 min read

Do We Really Need to Disclose Herpes?

Let’s be real for a second. If you have herpes, there’s probably a question that has rattled around your brain at least once, usually at 2 a.m. when you’re overthinking every life decision you’ve ever made: Do I really need to disclose this?

It’s a fair question. It usually comes from a place of fear—fear of rejection, fear of being labeled, or fear of that awkward silence that feels like it lasts an eternity. We live in a world where the standard STI panel doesn’t even include herpes testing u…

Apr 15, 2026 04:33pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Telling Your Partner

7 min read

Apr 8, 2026 04:25pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Outbreak Prevention

4 min read

Lysine or Antivirals for Herpes

What’s the Difference and Which One Should You Choose?

If you’ve ever searched for ways to manage herpes outbreaks, you’ve probably come across two very common options: lysine and antiviral medications.

People often ask:

Which one works better?

Should I take both?

Do I have to choose one over the other?

The truth is, they work in different ways, and for many people they serve different purposes.

What Is Lysine?

Lysine (L-lysine) is an amino acid, meaning it’s one of the building blo…

Apr 8, 2026 04:25pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Outbreak Prevention

4 min read

Apr 8, 2026 03:19am

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Herpes 101

2 min read

Have a Herpes Question?

Living with herpes can feel confusing sometimes. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or you’ve been managing it for years, there always seem to be new questions popping up:

“Why did I test negative after testing positive years ago?”
“Can I kiss my kids if I get cold sores?”
“What products really help during an outbreak?”
“How do I talk to a partner about herpes?”

If you’ve ever wished you could get clear, supportive, and trustworthy answers—without spending hours lost in Google rabbit holes—…

Apr 8, 2026 03:19am

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Herpes 101

2 min read

Apr 1, 2026 04:14pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Herpes 101

5 min read

Can Herpes Be Mistaken for Something Else?

One of the most confusing things about herpes is that it doesn’t always look the way people expect it to. Many people imagine herpes as obvious clusters of blisters that are painful and impossible to miss. (And Google doesn't help with that really). But in reality, herpes can look like many other common skin conditions — and other conditions can sometimes look like herpes.

Because of this, herpes is both misdiagnosed and missed more often than people realize.

Let’s look at what herpes can be m…

Apr 1, 2026 04:14pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Herpes 101

5 min read

Mar 25, 2026 05:30pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under The Shame Game

5 min read

How Grieving Herpes Helped Me Walk Free

When you had heard that you (or a partner) had been diagnosed with genital herpes…

How did you grieve?
What did you grieve?
Who did you grieve?
Or did you grieve?

I am a believer that it’s important that when we get tough news around things like health
to not bypass the grief that the news brings. The grief—no matter what type—is an
important aspect and recognition of the experience. It’s important to get it out of your
body and expressed while also not letting it consume you. The grief is part of the
in…

Mar 25, 2026 05:30pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under The Shame Game

5 min read

Mar 18, 2026 05:30pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Outbreak Prevention

5 min read

Lysine Supplements for Herpes Management: What the Research Really Says

A Balanced Look at the Science Behind This Popular Supplement

If you've spent any time in herpes support communities or browsing wellness aisles, you've likely heard about lysine. This essential amino acid has become a go-to supplement for many people living with herpes, with countless anecdotal reports of fewer outbreaks, faster healing, and milder symptoms.

But what does the actual science say? Is lysine genuinely effective, or is it just…

Mar 18, 2026 05:30pm

By Sabina Gaspirc

Under Outbreak Prevention

5 min read

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I Didn't Sign Up for This!

None of Us Did. And That's Exactly the Point.

There Is Risk and Reward in Every Relationship

How I Found Freedom After Herpes

You Don't Need to Have an Outbreak to Transmit Herpes

Do We Really Need to Disclose Herpes?

Lysine or Antivirals for Herpes

What’s the Difference and Which One Should You Choose?

What Is Lysine?

Have a Herpes Question?

Can Herpes Be Mistaken for Something Else?

How Grieving Herpes Helped Me Walk Free

Lysine Supplements for Herpes Management: What the Research Really Says

A Balanced Look at the Science Behind This Popular Supplement

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