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Take Responsibility and Practice Forgiveness: A Christian Foundation for Healing After a Herpes Diagnosis
A herpes diagnosis can bring up a lot of emotions. You might feel angry, confused, ashamed, or even betrayed by your own body. You may replay past decisions, wonder how this happened, or struggle with resentment toward the person you believe passed the virus to you. For some, the hardest part isn't managing the physical symptoms. It's learning how to live with the diagnosis emotionally.
For Alexandra two principles have played an important role in her journey: taking responsibility and practici…
When to Disclose Herpes
One of the most asked questions on Alexandra lives, on our group calls, in the chats. So, here it is. All our wisdom 
So, should you tell them on the first date? Before your first kiss? When you start developing feelings? Or should you wait until you know the relationship is going somewhere?
If you've been asking yourself these questions, you're not alone. Disclosure can feel intimidating, especially when you're worried that someone might see you differently once they know.
Here's the thing: …
Only People Who Sleep Around Get Herpes
Why This Myth Needs to Die (And the Facts That Kill It)
It's one of the oldest, cruelest, and most persistent myths about herpes: "Only people who sleep around get it."
Maybe you've heard it whispered. Maybe you've seen it in the comments section of some article. Maybe—worst of all—you've heard that ugly little voice inside your own head repeating it back to you after your diagnosis.
It's time to put this myth to rest. Permanently.
Here's the truth: Herpes doesn't care about your body cou…
Should a Herpes Outbreak Leave a Mark on My Skin?
You've made it through the outbreak, but after you think it's all over, there's this dark patch that doesn't seem to go away. With everything else going on, will you have a forever reminder that you have herpes?
Probably not, but let's see...
What Kind of Mark Is It? (Because Not All Marks Are Scars)
Here's something important to understand: the marks left behind after a herpes outbreak are usually not true scars. In most cases, what you're seeing is one of two things:
1. Post-Inflammatory E…
Herpes Questions People Are Asking: And Their Answers, pt.1
We've seen a pattern throughout the years when it comes to herpes. People ask the same qustions. So, we've decided to make a series with short answers, and trying to provide more resources if you want to dig deeper. So, here we go.
Some are practical. Some are emotional. Some you're afraid to even ask out loud.
Can I date with herpes?
Short answer: Yes, you can date with herpes. And yes, people will date you.
Dating with herpes isn't about if you can do it—it's about how. The key is disclo…
Antivirals and Pregnancy: What You Need to Know
It's the happy time of finding out you're pregnant (or planning to become), but there are surely questions that comes to mind when you're throwing your herpes diagnosis in. So, let's go when are you recommended in taking the antivirals during pregnancy.
Please note that we are not doctors - these are general guidelines for antivirals in pregnancy.
Another note - antivirals are never a must. It's your decision. They are recommended to take during the last few weeks in pregnancy and the benefit …
Would You Date Someone with Herpes – If You Didn't Have It Yourself?
Let's Flip the Perspective for a Minute
We spend so much time in our community talking about the fear of disclosure, the anxiety of rejection, and the weight of wondering if anyone will ever want us. But let's turn the tables for a moment.
Imagine you're someone who doesn't have herpes. You meet someone amazing. You click. You laugh. You stay up talking until 3 AM. You feel that spark.
And then they tell you: "I have herpes."
What do you do?
The Thing About "I Would Never"
I've heard peo…
The Myth: You Can Spot Herpes Just by Looking
You think you'll be able to tell if somebody has herpes - and let me tell you why this is false.
Why You Can't See It
Most People Have No Symptoms at All
The CDC states that most people with genital herpes have no symptoms or have very mild symptoms. The World Health Organization confirms that "most HSV infections are asymptomatic or unrecognized".
Translation: The majority of people carrying the virus don't even know they have it—because they've never had a single visible sore.
So if you'r…
3 Ways How Herpes Is Diagnosed
Method 1: The Physical Exam (A First Look)
What It Is: A healthcare provider looks at any blisters or sores you have and asks about your symptoms and sexual history.
When It's Used: When you have visible symptoms—blisters, ulcers, or sores in the genital or oral area.
The Catch: A physical exam alone should never be the final diagnosis. Why? Because herpes sores can look like other conditions—ingrown hairs, razor burn, syphilis, or even a bad pimple. Visual inspection is a starting point, not…
Should You Date Somebody with Herpes – Because You Have Herpes?
Let's Talk About the Question That Keeps Too Many People Single
I see it all the time in our community and from people that reach out, or write comments on social media. "I've been diagnosed with herpes and now I feel like I should only date people who already have it. It would be easier, right? No awkward conversations. No fear of rejection."
And every time I read that, something in my heart sinks. And I'll be honest - it makes me a bit mad. Because what society has done to this virus is inco…