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Can I Have Sex after Getting Herpes? 3 Myths Busted

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YES You Can Have Sex Even Though You Have Herpes. 

This is the number one thing we all freak out about when we’re diagnosed with herpes. Getting the diagnosis that says, “you have herpes” somehow equates in our mind that we can never have sex again. 

We immediately go to the place of this is punishment for having sex and I did something wrong so now I can’t do that any more. Or maybe we go to the place of who’s going to want to have sex with me. The...

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3 Reasons Why Dating with Herpes Is Safe

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 Here’s Why It’s Safer to Date Someone with Herpes


The initial thought of dating someone with herpes usually isn’t that it’s safe or even a good idea for that matter. And trust me, just saying this makes me mad.  But we’re not going to go there with the stigma that’s for another episode.

But really it’s good news when your partner tells you upfront that they have herpes. Also, a total side note but something to consider is that it was...

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5 Ways We Use Our Herpes Diagnosis to Hold Us Back

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Herpes Is Just an Excuse to Not Get What We Want


I’m going to jump right to it and just say it. We use our herpes diagnosis to hold us back and keep us in the corner. 


Don’t agree with me?


When I was first diagnosed back in 2011 I can remember feeling all of my hopes and dreams just vanishing. I can remember thinking to myself, why’d I even bother going to college, why do I work so hard at work, why should I take care of my body and my health, there’s no way...

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3 Tips on How to Date with Confidence and Herpes

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How To Be Yourself When You’re Dating With Herpes 

Dating can feel like it’s overwhelming and scary. We put so much pressure on ourselves from society, our family, maybe our friends to pick the right one and settle down. Being in love can be scary too. We don’t want to put our hearts out there to have it crushed or our ego completely shut down. 

Now let’s add our herpes diagnosis to dating. The thought of even dating with herpes sounds and feels impossible....

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Can You Have Casual Sex with Herpes? What a Herpes Diagnosis and Casual Sex Really Mean

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What a Herpes Diagnosis and Casual Sex Really Mean

I’m going to get right to it. Yes, you can have casual sex even with a herpes diagnosis! 

But here’s the deal, there’s a few steps that need to be taken before jumping in between the sheets. 

When this topic comes up in my Emergency Calls or our Support Group calls it usually starts out with something along the lines of, “I can never hook up again” or “it’s so hard to watch my friends hook...

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Life with Herpes Podcast Interview: Dr. Aziz Gazipura Talks about How to Date with Confidence

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How to Date with Confidence: Dr. Aziz Gazipura

Listen To The Life With Herpes Podcast 

Alexandra: Hi you guys. I'm Alexandra Harbushka, founder of Life with herpes. And I'm really excited today because we are doing something totally different. We haven't done a lot of interviews and so the spaces are... I'm very selective about who I bring to the show. So that's why I'm excited about today. So today we have Dr. Aziz Gazipura and he is...I can't wait. He went to Stanford, so I promised...

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How to Date with Confidence: Dr. Aziz Gazipura

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On this episode of Life With Herpes I had the honor of interviewing the world's leading confidence coach, Dr.Aziz Gazipura. Perhaps you’ve heard of him and perhaps you listen to his podcast, Shrink for the Shy Guy.   

Dr. Aziz and I had such a great time diving deep and getting into the emotional side of a diagnosis. We talk about how there really is no way to prepare yourself to get the call from your doctor and so we don’t know how to react and act. Therefore we...

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Don't Do This If Your Friend Has Herpes

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You’re Friend Will Hate You If You Do This After They Tell You They Have Herpes  

Picture this, your BFF just sat you down and poured her heart out to you telling you that she has genital herpes. 

Of course you’re just as shocked and don’t know what to say. I get it. I can remember my friends didn’t know what to say to me either. I think we just opened a bottle of wine and it made everything feel better. But in all seriousness, wine isn’t the...

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3 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot with a Herpes Diagnosis

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You Can Have a Hot Relationship With Herpes 

Let’s face it. When we get diagnosed with herpes we think our sexyness is gone. It’s almost like it’s not possible to be sexy with a herpes diagnosis. I mean that’s what the stigma tells us. Personally, it makes me mad. 

The stigma tells us that we’re bad people or that we are no longer equal when it comes to having a hot relationship. Well, it’s totally BS. Everyone is deserving of a hot, juicy, steamy...

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Can I Get Married If I Have Herpes?

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Why we hold ourselves back in love with a herpes diagnosis 

Over the years of working on Life With Herpes I’ve spoken to people who’ve not gotten married because they have herpes. I’ve also spoken to people who haven’t had children because they  have herpes but that’s another blog. It makes me really sad when I hear this or read this.  

I know when I was first diagnosed I believe that I had to settle for who I was with because he had herpes,...

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