Telling Your Partner
The Secret Society: An Online Support Group for Herpes Community
Finding out you have herpes can be a difficult and isolating experience. When Alexandra, the founder of The Secret Society was first diagnosed, she felt alone and without support. That's why she created The Secret Society, an online support group for people living with herpes.
The Secret Society is a place where people from all over the world come together to find support, make friends, and talk about their herpes journey. It's a safe space where people can be open and honest without fe…
The Day I Got Diagnosed with Genital Herpes Was the Worst Day of My Life: Oh Sh*T Anniversary pt.5
What Life with Herpes Looks like for 11 Years - Oh Sh*T Anniversary Pt.5
Herpes Disclosure: After You’ve Slept with Them
This topic brings up so many emotions. If you just slept with someone and they then later told you that they have herpes, I’m sure you are angry and confused. And if you have herpes and just slept with someone and didn’t tell them, I bet you have a lump in you stomach.
First, I want to talk about why it’s important to disclose. At the end of the day you are sharing the most intimate part of yourself with someone else. That does not just mean emotionally, that also means physically. You are p…
Can You Have Unprotected Sex If You Have Herpes?
Yes, of course you can. But before you hit the sheets with your partner let’s talk about some details first.
One of the biggest fears or thoughts are about having sex when you’ve been diagnosed with herpes is that you’ll have to use a condom for the rest of your life.
The other day I was listening to a podcast and the woman called on and said that she was interested in a guy but he has genital herpes. She naturally was concerned and proceeding very cautiously. I mean, I totally get it. One …
Tell Your Partner Toolkit
So I think all the toolkits and products that we have are great but if I had to pick one I think this is such an informative toolkit.
Our biggest fear once we’re diagnosed is dating. It’s the fear of rejection, it’s the how do I disclose, do I need to disclose and so on. All of these feelings questions and emotions are valid and an important part of the herpes journey.
What I did and I don’t want to happen to you is feel stuck and or not put yourself out there. I stayed in a relationship w…
How I Told My Husband I Have Herpes
In case you don’t know it, I’m married and my husband does not have herpes!
This comes as a shock to a lot of people. I don’t think it’s the married part but the part that my husband doesn’t have herpes.
Of course prior to having herpes and when we hear of people having herpes we automatically assume that anyone they sleep with will automatically get herpes. At least that was what I thought.
But this post is not about how to prevent transmission to your partner, I have many other posts y…
Should You Tell Your Past Partners about Your Herpes Diagnosis
Do your past partners even need to know that you have herpes?
When you’re just recently diagnosed with herpes hundred-and-one questions go through your mind. Usually a top one is where did I get this from. In some cases you may know exactly who you got it from for one reason or another but most of the time we don’t really know who it came from or when we got the HSV virus.
I know when I was diagnosed with herpes I was going crazy with wondering who gave me this. I was still in the victim mod…
3 Ways Your Sex Life Improves with Herpes
How a Herpes Diagnosis Improves Your Sex Life
The thought of having a healthy sex life and herpes usually don’t go together in the same sentence. I know when I was diagnosed with genital herpes the thought of having sex was disgusting to me. I can remember thinking that that was what got me in this mess and so now I have to pay for my mistakes. By the way… it took about 2 years to forgive myself and believe that I didn’t make a mistake and I didn’t do anything wrong.
Then I got over the disgu…
3 Reasons Why Dating with Herpes Is Safe
Here’s Why It’s Safer to Date Someone with Herpes
The initial thought of dating someone with herpes usually isn’t that it’s safe or even a good idea for that matter. And trust me, just saying this makes me mad. But we’re not going to go there with the stigma that’s for another episode.
But really it’s good news when your partner tells you upfront that they have herpes. Also, a total side note but something to consider is that it was probably a really hard conversation to have so you should…