Telling Your Partner
Do your past partners even need to know that you have herpes?
When you’re just recently diagnosed with herpes hundred-and-one questions go through your mind. Usually a top one is where did I get this from. In some cases you may know exactly who you got it from for one reason or another but most of the time we don’t really know who it came from or when we got the HSV virus.
I know when I was diagnosed with herpes I was going crazy with wondering who gave me this. I was still in the victim mod…
How a Herpes Diagnosis Improves Your Sex Life
The thought of having a healthy sex life and herpes usually don’t go together in the same sentence. I know when I was diagnosed with genital herpes the thought of having sex was disgusting to me. I can remember thinking that that was what got me in this mess and so now I have to pay for my mistakes. By the way… it took about 2 years to forgive myself and believe that I didn’t make a mistake and I didn’t do anything wrong.
Then I got over the disgu…
Here’s Why It’s Safer to Date Someone with Herpes
The initial thought of dating someone with herpes usually isn’t that it’s safe or even a good idea for that matter. And trust me, just saying this makes me mad. But we’re not going to go there with the stigma that’s for another episode.
But really it’s good news when your partner tells you upfront that they have herpes. Also, a total side note but something to consider is that it was probably a really hard conversation to have so you should…
You’re Friend Will Hate You If You Do This After They Tell You They Have Herpes
Picture this, your BFF just sat you down and poured her heart out to you telling you that she has genital herpes.
Of course you’re just as shocked and don’t know what to say. I get it. I can remember my friends didn’t know what to say to me either. I think we just opened a bottle of wine and it made everything feel better. But in all seriousness, wine isn’t the answer and you need to be there for your BFF.
You Can Have a Hot Relationship With Herpes
Let’s face it. When we get diagnosed with herpes we think our sexyness is gone. It’s almost like it’s not possible to be sexy with a herpes diagnosis. I mean that’s what the stigma tells us. Personally, it makes me mad.
The stigma tells us that we’re bad people or that we are no longer equal when it comes to having a hot relationship. Well, it’s totally BS. Everyone is deserving of a hot, juicy, steamy relationship. And here’s the secret. It takes …
How to Talk to your Boyfriend About Having Herpes
Talking about sex is something that in general we don’t feel comfortable about. As adults we get all uncomfortable when a sex topic comes up and it’s like we turn into little kids. It’s so funny. But at the same time it’s a real problem. We need to learn how to talk to our partners about sex and that includes safe sex, birth control, desires and so on.
Today we’re talking about how to talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend about having herpes…
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How to Be There for Your BFF when They’re Diagnosed with Herpes
You and your best friend are hanging out having a glass of wine and she says to you, “I have herpes”.
You immediately pour another glass of wine and don’t know what to say.
Have you been there? Of course you don’t want to say the wrong thing and you want to be there to support your BFF. Let’s face it, she's scared and you’re there wanting to make all the pain go away.
Ok so here’s what to say and how to comfort your frien…
What You Need to Know before You Tell Your Friends and Family
Hearing the words, “I’m clean” when talking about STI’s is so common. Personally it makes me cringe when I hear it. Typically when we’re about to be sexually active with a new partner the conversation usually uses the words, “don’t worry I’m clean” in it. Sound familiar?
Hear’s the deal, using the word “clean” when talking about herpes or any other STI is just silly. Firstly it adds a connotation that a person with herpes is a dirt…
What you need to know about oral sex and herpes
One of the common questions I get from the community has to do with oral sex. Oral sex is kind of left out of the equation when we’re talking about sex, sex education or sexual health. Typically what comes to mind when we talk about sex is just the plane old heterosexual vaginal sex. And then when we talk about safe sex or even in sex ed classes, oral sex is kinda just left out. It’s like it’s not really considered sex.
Ok so here’s the deal, y…
Do you always have to use protection now that you have herpes?
The quick answer is no! You can absolutely have unprotected sex even if you have herpes. Before we dive deep and go into explanation on this let’s talk about how this is a huge myth and is one of the drivers for the stigma.
When we are diagnosed and told that we have herpes we automatically think that we’re going to be forced to use condoms for the rest of our lives, even when we’re married. Yuck! And this is not true. Yes, condoms…