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National Condom Month: Celebrating Safe Practices and Understanding Limitations

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February marks National Condom Month, an unofficial holiday focused on raising awareness about the benefits of condoms and promoting safe sex practices. So of course we have to talk about it!

Some fun information on the history of condoms dates back centuries, with the oldest condoms discovered in a cesspit on the grounds of Dudley Castle in England, dating back to around 1642. Initially made from chemically treated linen and animal tissue, condoms evolved over the years. Rubber condoms gaine…

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Embracing Creative Romance Month: A Journey to Self-Love Amidst a Herpes Diagnosis

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February is not just the month of love; it's an opportunity to infuse creativity into our relationships and, most importantly, to cultivate self-love. As we celebrate the month of Valentine's Day, let's embark on a journey that goes beyond conventional expressions of love and delves into the realm of Creative Romance Month. However, for those navigating life with a herpes diagnosis, this month can bring up uncomfortable feelings, challenging us to confront and overcome the internalized shame ass…

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Embracing the Journey: Life, Faith, and Herpes

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In the tapestry of life, certain threads can lead us to unexpected places, challenging our perceptions and reshaping our understanding of self-worth, relationships, and societal norms. Lindsey Ellyn's candid revelation about her herpes diagnosis serves as a poignant narrative, weaving together themes of healing, faith, and the courage to break free from the stifling chains of stigma.

Lindsey's journey begins with the profound realization that her worth extends far beyond the lab…

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How Many times People Have Sex

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Sexuality forms a vital part of our lives, weaving intimacy and connection into relationships. Yet, pinning down the ideal frequency of sexual activity can be like navigating through uncharted waters. Everyone has unique desires, leading to differing needs for intimacy throughout the week. According to experts, the benefits of regular sexual activity extend beyond pleasure, contributing significantly to both physical and mental well-being while fostering a deeper bond between partners. However, …

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Understanding the Herpes Stigma: How Perception Doesn't Match Reality

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In a world where fear often overshadows facts, herpes stands as a prime example. The perception of this virus as a severe health threat doesn't align with its actual impact. Let's dive deeper into the reality behind the stigma and how it's evolved over time.

Herpes simplex virus, particularly HSV-2, usually linked with genital outbreaks, affects approximately 11.9 percent of Americans aged 14 to 49, with the majority being unaware of their infection. This lack of awareness is partly due to the …

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Best Herpes Dating Advice: What Community Says?

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Dating with herpes might feel like a the biggest task. The already complex world of dating seems to gain an additional layer of challenge—navigating the disclosure and acceptance of having herpes. When I received my genital herpes diagnosis back in 2011, fear engulfed me. It petrified me so much that I stayed in a relationship with the person I'd contracted herpes from. For two years, I held back, not knowing how to broach the daunting conversation of disclosure. Looking back, I wish I had posse…

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Choosing Yourself Over Rejection

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When we receive a herpes diagnosis, it's not uncommon to feel paralyzed at the thought of dating. I know I certainly did. I remained in a relationship for two more years than I should have, mainly because I didn't know how to disclose my condition, and I was overwhelmed by the fear of rejection.

Over the years, as I've spoken to thousands of people since starting "Life With Herpes" in 2017, a recurring theme I've observed is the tendency to push away someone we're genuinely interested in. This …

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Why Would Someone Want to Sue for a Herpes Diagnosis?

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Dealing with a herpes diagnosis can be a challenging and emotionally draining experience. The shock, anger, and frustration that often accompany this diagnosis can lead some individuals to consider suing the person they believe is responsible for their herpes infection. In recent times, a notable lawsuit drew attention when a woman received a substantial $2.4 million settlement due to her herpes infection; you can read about it here. This case, along with others, highlights the growing interes…

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Embracing Resentment: Your Journey after a Herpes Diagnosis

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You've just received a herpes diagnosis, and a whirlwind of emotions is surging through you. Anger, fear, and confusion may be the dominant feelings, but what you're experiencing is entirely normal. In this blog post, we're going to delve into these complex emotions and help you understand that resentment, at its core, is often rooted in jealousy. You're not alone in this journey, and by seeking support, like the Life With Herpes Secret Society, you'll find a glimmer of hope and the tools to nav…

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Understanding Herpes: Insights from an OBGYN

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Living with herpes can be challenging and overwhelming, but it's important to remember that you're not alone. In a recent interview, we had the opportunity to speak with Dr. John Martin, an experienced OBGYN, who shared valuable insights about herpes, its impact on pregnancy, and how individuals can navigate this diagnosis. Join us as we delve into the conversation and gain a better understanding of herpes from a medical professional's perspective.

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