This is one of the scariest things that cross our minds when we’re first diagnosed with herpes. A typical thought that goes through our minds is how awful our diagnosis was and how we’d never want anyone to experience the physical pain of the outbreak. Sometimes we feel like the guilt of giving herpes to someone would be the worst thing too. 

I get asked all the time in our Secret Society about how to deal with giving herpes to your partner. The truth is I’ve never touched on this because I’ve …

If you are afraid to exercise for fear that physical activity will trigger an outbreak, don’t be. A healthy, balanced lifestyle should include fitness -- even when you have herpes. Keeping your body healthy might even help prevent some outbreaks since exercise boosts the immune system and lowers stress. Keep reading for ways to include fitness in your life as part of a healthy self-care routine. 

Understanding self-care

Participating in a balanced self-care plan is important, but many people m…

Is it harder to say I love you or I have herpes?

Let’s talk about those three little words that are brought up when you’re dating.

So I overheard someone say that it's so hard to say those three little words. I immediately thought of the words I LOVE YOU.  Right? I mean wouldn't you? We’ve been so marketed to by hallmark and diamonds are for every type of campaigns that when we think of the three little words we think of  I LOVE YOU. But as the conversation continued and I heard the three word…

What You Need to Ask Yourself When You're Dating

Dating as a whole can be scary, fun, the time of your life or when will this phase be over. We put so much pressure on ourselves to not waste time and find “the one”. Most of the time we forget to enjoy the person who’s in front of us for who they are. We quickly get rid of or move on from someone because they don’t fit this “mold” we put in our heads. 

It’s totally possible to date someone just because you have fun. Back to talking about being …

Ok, great news,  HerpAlert has some exciting new features and I can’t wait to share them with you all. As you know I absolutely love saying the name HerpAlert! But a quick refresher on HerpAlert in case you missed it or are new to the Life With Herpes community, HerpAlert’s an online herpes diagnosis and treatment resource. So if you’re wondering if you have herpes and want a clinical diagnosis ASAP you’d want to go to HerpAlert.com and fill out your symptoms, upload a picture of the infectio…

Ok so we’ve all heard of how important it is to have a strong immune system. It keeps colds away and it also can keep you from getting herpes outbreaks. Obviously, we want to do everything we can to keep the herpes virus from popping up and causing a painful outbreak. 

What we put in our bodies plays a big role in how we feel, sleep our energy levels as well as our immune system. I’m sure by this point you’ve eaten a meal and then after felt like a slug or not so hot. Either you were bloated or…

This is a long drawn out debate. Some people argue that when the birth control pills were brought out it completely changed the dating game. Because think about, before the pill, there were only condoms that would protect you from pregnancy… and who knows how effective they were. So, to avoid public humiliation from your family and the people around you about getting pregnant a lot of couples avoided sex. I’m not saying sex didn’t happen, of course, it did. What I’m arguing is it wasn’t as op…

So glad you’re here today because we have a special guest, my husband. Ok, so you all have asked for Bill to share his side when it comes to me having herpes. So today I share how I disclosed to him and then we get his reaction to me disclosing.

Disclosing is one of the hardest things that people with herpes have to deal with. After the initial shock of finding out about your herpes diagnosis the next biggie to overcome is disclosing. If this is something that’s preventing you from dating plea…

Beginning to look at your glass half full with herpes. 

I know this can come to you as a huge surprise. You’re like, wait for what...good news?!?!?!?!?! F that!

Sound familiar? And you’ve probably added a ton of’s “there are nothing good about herpes” thoughts in there. Like, it broke up my relationship, it destroyed my dreams and I’ll never ever meet anyone who will love me because I have this.

Sound about right? Did I miss anything?

Ok… I get it. I felt the exact same way. It’s a shock a…

It's important to know where you're vibrator and sex toys have been and what material they're made out of.

Vibrators are a $1 billion dollar market in the U.S. alone, one in two women get their buzz on, and 81% of women have brought one into bed with their guy. If you or your partner brings a toy into the bedroom, it’s important to not only know your partner’s history – but also that toy’s history.

Ok so as you know I talk about sex and herpes and the best way’s to protect yourself and of cour…