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113: Talking about Sex and Herpes and Getting Tested with Alexandra Harbushka

Life With Herpes

https://youtu.be/bBo4P5Yywj4

We have no problem talking about what’s going on in our lives or what we want for dinner but when it comes to talking about sex we all act like little kids that got caught with their hand in the cookie jar. Basically, we freeze and run away.

Sound familiar?

Be honest… have you always had “the talk” before getting naked with someone?

Right. That’s what I thought. And why?

Because we don’t know how to have the talk. The sex talk is something that old...

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116: Why Will I Have Herpes For The Rest Of My Life With Alexandra Harbushka

https://youtu.be/Ue5VRUAHOgU


One of the biggest reasons why herpes is so dreaded is because it stays with you forever. It’s one of the few things you're guaranteed to take with you when you die. The reason is because it’s a virus.



Now compared to getting chlamydia or ghonorrea or even strep throat these are all bacterial infections, not viruses. So when a person is diagnosed with say chlamydia a doctor will prescribe an antibiotic that will kill the chlamydia living in your body. You...

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117: What I Wish I Knew Before I Was Diagnosed With Herpes With Alexandra Harbushka

https://youtu.be/gRLgGtfBWQE


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It’s so easy to look back with the knowledge that you have now and say I shoulda coulda woulda etc. If you could turn back the time you could pick the winning lotto tickets or ace the final exam or even sweet the one you love off your feet. I don’t think too many people would say, “I’d still get herpes”. However, I would but that’s another post.



Now knowing everything I know about herpes I wish there were somethings that I would have...

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118: Red Flag Responses To Safe Sex With Alexandra Harbushka

Life With Herpes



https://youtu.be/vhgx-zFJ1QE


Alright, I’ll just jump right to it. We hate having the “sex” talk and even worse we hate having the “safe sex” talk.



I’m sure we all could come up with some really classic responses. In fact, you should let us all know your favorite response to the “safe sex” talk. It’s like coming up with your favorite pick up line. Lol. Ok but in all seriousness having the safe sex convo is really important. I talk a lot about this in other shows so...

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119: How NOT To Tell Your Partner You Have Herpes With Alexandra Harbushka

Life With Herpes



https://youtu.be/w-NzfQJ0OeU


Hi there. So we’ve talked a ton about how to tell your partner or when to tell your partner and what to say when you tell your partner. It’s all scary and trust me I totally get it. Society has made us look like we’re bad people for having herpes and we’ve also been taught to not talk about sex. So why would talking about herpes be normal or easy?



So here are some ways to NOT tell your partner you have herpes.



A really bad time is…



When...

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120: Alexandra Harbushka's Husbands Thoughts On Her Having Herpes

https://youtu.be/RqdvGeMGLp8


Hi there! On today’s episode my husband, Bill, is joining us. Yay! There’s been a ton of Secret Society members who’ve been asking about Bill and wanting to know what his true thoughts were when it came to be with me, us having sex and the risks of transmitting herpes.



Originally when I was diagnosed I truly believed that nobody would love me because of this virus. Sound familiar? I stayed in a relationship far too long because I didn’t have the...

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123: Importance Of Putting Your Ego Aside And Telling Your Partner About Herpes With Alexandra Harbushka

Life With Herpes



https://youtu.be/-fIg8a61WvY


The ego is a really strong influence on our lives. The ego has some really good quality and of course, it can have some bad qualities.



The ego has many definitions and to some, it can be described as the little devil that sits on your shoulder. But the ego is basically a little voice inside you that wants to feel special and wants to prove it’s self. At the same time, the ego could be seen as it’s lacking confidence so it needs to be...

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120: Reason's To Date Even With Herpes With Alexandra Harbushka

https://youtu.be/Iswf4pNxAg8


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I have to imagine that dating has been around since the first humas roamed this earth. Finding love, compaionship, friendship and the desire to reproduce is just in our DNA. And from my opinion it’s in pretty much every species DNA. Now, don’t quote me on that, I’m in no way a National Geographic or Animal Planet expert. But what I’m saying is we are born to desire companionship and reproduce. If we didn’t have that then our specise would be...

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