When Do You Come out of Your Herpes PTSD Aka the Eeyore Phase?
I was stuck in the Eeyore Phase for 2 years. It was awful, painful, yet something that I needed to go through.
With all that being said, I have no desire for you to go through this PTSD for 2 years and that is why I’ve created this community, platform and all the content.
On a serious note, if you are experiencing PTST or extreme emotions that are causing you to not participate in you daily life and have had suicidal thoughts please seek help. Here’s the suicide hotline 800-273-8255 and please seek professional support.
Let’s talk a little bit about the PTSD or what I like to call the Eeyore Phase. PTST can be caused from a traumatic event that can leave us having flashbacks and or anxiety around the particular situation. It can alter your mood and even your lifestyle. I like to call this phase the Eeyore phase. Some of us might have more severe reproductions than others but we all go through it. Like I said earlier was that I was in the Eeyore phase for 2 years.
I stayed with the guy who gave me herpes because I didn’t have the confidence to move on. I was in a really dark place. I wasn’t myself at all. I hated men and didn’t trust them. I had anxiety attacks and even a huge one where I passed out on a plane. The idea of having herpes consumed my every thought.
I realized that I couldn’t continue to live life like this. I was going to waste my time on this earth and just shrivel up. I didn’t want that. I didn’t want to miss out on things that I had planned on doing. I didn’t want to have to settle and marry someone I didn’t love. I didn’t want to miss out on the chance to be a mommy. I didn’t want to feel like I had a handicap because of this microscopic virus. I knew that I had to make some changes. And so I did.
So back to the original question, when will you come out of the Eeyore Phase?
It’s different for everyone but here are some tips that can help.
Firstly, surround yourself with people and a community that will support you. This is why I created the Secret Society, I was completely alone back in 2011. When we surround ourselves with like-minded people we are able to share our stories, share our concerns, and get support.
Secondly, do some self work. Maybe seeking some professional help is needed. I didn’t realize that all of the problems that I believed I had because I now had herpes were all problems that were already there. The handicaps that I had placed on myself were some deep-rooted beliefs or things I had picked up along the way and having herpes now required me to confront them. Herpes really wasn’t my problem and really wasn't what was holding me back. I invite you to do some digging on why you think having herpes has ruined your life. Once you start doing this, you might find that theses things were there before.
Lastly, do the things you love to do. Become who you want to be, not who you think you should be because you have hereps. When we put a label on who we are with herpes it will only hold us back. It will only keep us in the Eeyore phase. If you love running, then keep running. If you love your job, then keep up the good work. If you want to date and find the right one for you, then date. Dating isn’t different because you have herpes, it just means that you will find someone who is really into you for you and not just to sleep with you. Do you and be you.
When I decided I wanted to get out of the Eeyore Phase the biggest thing was I had to do the work. Nothing or nobody will do it for you. Dating someone that accepts you for having herpes won’t totally do it. I had to believe that I was worthy of a beautiful life and I had to gain the confidence all on my own to do it.
Like I mentioned before this is why I created theLife With Herpes Secret Society. I felt alone and never wanted anyone to feel that way. This community will help you grow and grow out of the Eeyore phase and become an ever awesome person. It’s all possible and it’s possible while living with herpes.