Are Herpes Outbreaks Different For Men And Women

Life With Herpes

There’s always an initial thought that goes through all of our heads when we feel an itch or a tingle or something just doesn’t feel quite right “down there”. The thought that an outbreak? Or if we haven’t been diagnosed with herpes we’re thinking, “OMG is that Herpes.”

Questions I get all the time from members in our Secret Society are what are the symptoms of herpes or how do I know when it’s an outbreak or what are some symptoms I should be looking for. One question I recently got from one of our members was, “ Are outbreaks different for men and women and what are some of the symptoms for men?”

So let’s break it down about what symptoms you can expect to see or have when you’re coming down with an outbreak or during an outbreak.

Herpes symptoms for both men and women:

  • Blistery sores
  • Burning when you pee if you have sores
  • Trouble peeing if you have sores covering your urethra
  • Itching or pain around your genitals
  • Sometimes the blisters can bleed
  • Swollen, tender glands in the pelvic area, throat, or under the arms
  • Fever
  • Chills
  • Fatigue
  • Headache
  • General run-down feeling
  • Achy, flu-like feelings

What does herpes look like?

  • The sores can be single or in clusters
  • Can look like papercuts
  • Filled with fluid
  • Are hard to pop

What men should look for:

  • Typically in men, the herpes infection is on the penis or around the anus

What women should look for:

  • Typically in women clusters of blistery sores show up on your vulva, cervix, or anus.


Keep in mind everyone is a little different. Someone might get headaches and flu-like symptoms while you might get really itchy and swollen. We’re all different and our bodies all react a little different. The key thing here is to know you’re body and know what your triggers are so that you can get on top of your outbreak as well as do the best that you can to prevent transmission to your partner.

Do you have symptoms that are different than what I listed? Let me know in the comments.


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